Tuesday, September 20, 2016

Insurance : PTSD, Marriage and House Guests

Insurance : PTSD, Marriage and House Guests: PTSD, Marriage and House Guests     When having a houseguest, a person always wants to make sure that their guest feels wanted and has...

Sunday, September 18, 2016

PTSD, Marriage and House Guests


    When having a houseguest, a person always wants to make sure that their guest feels wanted and has an excellent time. Is this how someone with PTSD sees it? Will something trigger the PTSD anger side to come out? Will I be embarrassed or be able to explain to the person what the upset is or will I even know? Questions are always going through a spouse & family member’s head in regards to how they will handle a situation.
     Living with someone that has PTSD is not always the life we have built up in our heads, but it's our life, the one I chose and vowed to live. When a person takes the vows in their marriage even if PTSD signs were not there, however, Sickness and Health was. There are ways to work around the good, bad, and ugly of PTSD in a marriage. You have to be a willing partner and not expect a lot back from the other partner. Marriage is hard work but when there is something that is mentally wrong with a partner it is extremely hard work. Choosing to fight or flight is then at a test. Some leave and some stay to fight the battle.
     My partner and I have had a whirlwind this past year. Our twenty – three-year-old son moved in, then I started a new job working four tens a week, my sister moved in and then the in-laws came to visit. We were all in the same house at the same time.   These events were not the greatest for my husband (who did an outstanding job with his temper) but were hard, to say the least. I could tell by looking at him that he was not the happiest or biting his tongue to keep civil.
    My hours were horrible; my boss did not listen when I asked for study hours due to my husband's PTSD. The manager continued to say certain things that made it even worse and that he did not even begin to understand PTSD. I needed to find a steady job that would work for us both. Life would not move outside of the angle it was going, and we both would not be happy, had I not listen to what the counselor said or what my husband's needs were.
     Life is not comfortable in a regular relationship but when you have PTSD involved it gets a whole lot harder. Knowing now what I do would we still have married? I fell in love with this man in nineteen ninety-one, Heck yes, this man is the most caring, lovable, kind person I meant then but as time moved forward and life kept hitting him with terrible moments he fell deep into his hidden self.  PTSD not his fault but how he dealt with the issues. Then they piled up and now PTSD is a part of our lives.

     A regular life and a life with PTSD still takes time and patience with hard work from both parties. No one knows how long your job is cut out to take, but it is all about the journey, the commitment, and love you feel for each other that make it worth going through together. 

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How Well Are You Insured?

                                                 How Well Are You Insured?

     Insurance is not easy to understand, and it is easy to leave your insurance needs in the wrong hands. Has your insurance agent contacted you lately? Are you protected? Can you read your insurance policy and understand it? After speaking with your agent do you ever just sit back and think "Did he/she just answer my question vaguely to get me off the phone and left with your question still not thoroughly answered"?  Well, you are not alone.

     Many people out in the world know that they have to have insurance but do not understand exactly why or what they need. Being in this business for 13 years and can help you answer your questions that you possibly have or not answered. Insurance is a business that has people thinking why do I need this or am I covered. Let me respond to some of those questions.

     People need insurance not only to protect them from being sued but to protect another person or family in an accident caused by you or someone within your home. Liability is what you need to protect someone you are at fault for hurting. Let's speak auto for a moment. If you are in a car accident, and it is not your fault would you want that person to pay for the damage they caused you? Of course, you would!   Your Bodily injury comes in; it helps the other person and family. Bills pile up to be costly. No one wants to have huge medical bills. Your auto insurance steps into play and pays.

      Let's just say you have state minimum liability. $25,000/ $50,000/$25,000, the first $25,000 if for each person is all the insurance company will pay out or up to $50,000 for each accident. That means the insurance will only cover $50,000 per accident no matter how much the bill is. Leaving you with anything over $50,000 to be paid out of your pocket on medical bills. The other $25,000 is for property damage. The person you hit when you are at fault in an accident, will only get up to $25,000 paid towards replacing their car. You this does not cover you nor your property just the other guy. We all know how much doctor's visits are. Ambulance rides charge per mile too, so if they need to leave by ambulance that adds up too on the medical side. The other party can legally sue you for the rest, taking your home and belongings away to sell.

     Uninsured motorist and underinsured coverage should always be the same as you give the other guy. Why would you not give yourself and family the same coverage? Uninsured/Underinsured coverage will cover you in an accident that is not your fault, and if you or your passengers need to go to the hospital due to someone else.

     Comprehensive and Collision coverage is for your car in case you have something happen. Let's start with comprehensive coverage. Comprehensive coverage covers anything, not collision related, hitting a deer, a tree falling on your car, a rock hitting the windshield, scratch from a cart in the store parking lot. The collision is just that someone hit you while parked, you are involved in an accident whether single car or multiple car accidents, you hit a telephone pole, or back into something.

Does insurance go up with claims some do, and some don't? If you don't want it to go up, don't turn in a claim unless you know for sure you have the right information first. Turning to the claim and then pulling it will still show as a claim against you. Comprehensive will not count, but too many claims will result in your insurance history looking bad if you are shopping for other insurance.

     Let me answer your questions on insurance, and if I can't, I will find the answer for you. Let's talk about your current policy. I can make sure your agent has you properly insured. No obligation period!    



Thank you for reading this post.
Tina Collet
Allstate Agent
503-908-1940






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